How is this potty training method different than others?

I hate to bore you with history and statistics at the start, but it really sheds a lot of light on the way I advocate you potty train your child.  

In 1957, 92% of American babies were potty trained by 18 months.  Those babies were your parents or grandparents! What happened in two or three generations?

In 1959, the disposable diaper was invented.  Honestly, this was a great convenience to mothers who had been washing and air drying cloth diapers.  Shortly after disposable diapers hit the market, a pediatrician on the Pampers board, started advocating that parents postpone potty training until toddlers showed readiness.  With almost no scientific evidence on his side, his position toward delayed potty training became the norm. And almost 60 years later, most pediatricians and child care providers still recommend waiting until the child is ready or shows interest in potty training.  

Now, the average age at which American children are potty trained is around 3 years old.  

In contrast, today, worldwide 50% are potty trained by 12 months.  

What does non-coercive refer to?  The potty training method I recommend is parent-led, gentle and firm.  There is no reward system because pottying in the toilet is simply what must be achieved - to meet your child’s hygienic needs, to increase his sense of self-worth, to honor his desire to be independent.  The gift you are giving is the path to potty independence. No M & Ms needed!

Non-coercive potty training is well aligned with the way your grandma potty trained her babies.  She was matter-of-fact and confident in her approach, and yet gentle. She announced one day that diapers were a thing of the past.  She knew there would be an intensive learning period, called potty training, in which accidents would certainly occur. She learned her babies’ pee pee dances and ushered them to the potty.  She taught her babes the building blocks of potty independence - clothing manipulation, wiping, flushing and washing hands. She prompted them at transition times to use the potty - upon waking and before going to sleep, before leaving the house and upon arrival, before and after meals.  

You’re going to potty train your child, as early as 18 months, just like your grandma did.  Today, it’s hard to get psyched about potty training because there is so many approaches and so much conflicting information.  The Potty Training Plan tells you exactly how to train your child. The Plan takes about 7-10 days. You will start at home naked (your babe, not you!) and learn your child’s pee pee dance and how to get him to the potty.  As things start to click for your child, you will add some short outings and clothing. In 2 weeks or less, you will feel confident living your life inside and outside your home with your diaper-less child. He will be able to attend day care or preschool without diapers (or pull-ups) too.  Will you still have to prompt? YES. Will you still have to work on clothing manipulation and wiping? YES. But you will be moving steadily toward potty independence. (Nap and nighttime training can happen alongside daytime training or start about 3 weeks after the completion of day time training.  Your choice.)

I want you to know that I support your decision to potty train NOW.  If you’re ready (and informed), your child is ready. Click here for the 5 steps to execute potty training with confidence and grace.

(If you’re child is younger than 18 months and you’re looking to reduce reliance on diapers, consider Elimination Communication.)

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